Archive | February, 2014

Learning to Grieve Without God: “A weight has been lifted”

From “Part 2 of Grieving without God — Giving up the Ghost” by “Awesome Aunt Kristi” at the grief blog Still Breathing: Eventually, when I had spent all those hours pondering and processing this situation, I came out the other side of discarding the deity and I felt free. Giving up God allowed me to grieve in […]

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“In the aftermath of loss…”

From “Nobody’s Son,” a painful, lovely and secular piece of grief writing by Mark Slouka in The New Yorker. I don’t want to be misunderstood: I’m not selling this as any kind of blueprint, any kind of three- or five- or eight-step program to anything at all; as far as I can tell, there is […]

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Who Advocates for Your Grief?

At the Grief Beyond Belief Facebook Page, Dawn Freeman Schulte told this story in response to the meme about the invisible battles we are all fighting. I have an annual feast at my house – Thanksgiving, but in May – Maysgiving. The year I had my second miscarriage, I had to postpone; part health recovery, […]

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A Valentine for the Grieving

“Carl faced his death with unflagging courage and never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation […]

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Be kind. Always.

  Ever just want to scream, “I’m grieving!  Be nicer to me! ”  Ever wish you never had to?

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“The Scars Remain Tender”

The scars remain tender. Never, ever healed, but only lightly scabbed over. Time does not heal all wounds, but only allows us to adapt, if we can, to a life that is forever altered. Some wounds are like physical disabilities that will never heal, but can only be compensated for, adapted to. Neil Peart Is […]

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What Color is Your Grief?

I mourn in grey, grey as the sleeted wind the bled shades of twilight, gunmetal, battleships, industrial paint. Marge Piercy In what color do you mourn?

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A Little Bleak Humor About Working While Grieving

Suzanne posted this apt piece about the workplace perils grieving parents face on the GBB Facebook Page.  Most apply to anyone grieving, actually.  Here’s an excerpt from “A Bereaved Parent’s (tongue-in-cheek) Guide to Job Postings” in The Mourning After Natasha blog. The job posting says: “Must be flexible and willing to take on new challenges.” What it really […]

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