About Rebecca Hensler

Rebecca Hensler founded Grief Beyond Belief in 2011, following the death of her infant son Jude. She runs Grief Beyond Belief from her home and continues to write and speak on the topics of grief without faith and secular grief support.

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To hug or not to hug?

Why is it that my grief seems to give people permission to invade my personal space? A total stranger and I are talking about our work, the way strangers do.  We are on the patio at a club, and we’ve both had a few drinks, so the conversation is a little less coherent and a little more […]

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No, actually we do pretty much know…

Do you ever get tired of hearing people say “Well, we don’t know what happens after someone dies”?  Or, “It’s not like anyone can come back to tell us what happens after we die, so we’re never going to know for sure”?  And then they use that as a justification for believing in their pet afterlife hypothesis: heaven or […]

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Seeking the Grief Stories of Non-Believers for “Grief Beyond Belief” Book

If you are an atheist. agnostic, Humanist, skeptic, freethinker, or some other sort of non-believer in God, the supernatural or any kind of afterlife — and you have an experience (or experiences) with grief — we want to hear about it. I am going to be collaborating on a book about faith-free grief with Greta Christina, atheist […]

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I’ll take my grief reality-based, thank you.

See, here’s the thing… …and I’m okay with this. It’s not that the fairy stories hold no appeal.  Confession time:  In the months after my baby boy died, sometimes I indulged in daydreams about that kind of thing. My daydreams were always kind of sweet and funny.  Mostly they involved my dear friends Colin and […]

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Griefbeyondbelief.org is in Beta Testing until June 19, 2014

Feel free to peruse, but please don’t be upset by features that don’t work yet. We are working out the kinks so that the website will be ready for its formal launch on June 19th, 2014. If you tried to login today through social media, for example, it may not have worked. Mark and I […]

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Beyond Funny

Of course, more than one person pointed me towards The Onion’s video, “Leading Cause of Death in the US is God Needing Another Angel,” this week.  And more than one person questioned whether this would be funny to a grieving atheist parent. All  nonbelievers  reject the sugary tropes explaining why an all-powerful, all-knowing and all-loving […]

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Who Advocates for Your Grief?

At the Grief Beyond Belief Facebook Page, Dawn Freeman Schulte told this story in response to the meme about the invisible battles we are all fighting. I have an annual feast at my house – Thanksgiving, but in May – Maysgiving. The year I had my second miscarriage, I had to postpone; part health recovery, […]

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A Valentine for the Grieving

“Carl faced his death with unflagging courage and never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation […]

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Be kind. Always.

  Ever just want to scream, “I’m grieving!  Be nicer to me! ”  Ever wish you never had to?

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“The Scars Remain Tender”

The scars remain tender. Never, ever healed, but only lightly scabbed over. Time does not heal all wounds, but only allows us to adapt, if we can, to a life that is forever altered. Some wounds are like physical disabilities that will never heal, but can only be compensated for, adapted to. Neil Peart Is […]

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