A Valentine for the Grieving

“Carl faced his death with unflagging courage and never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation of how brief and precious life is. We never trivialized the meaning of death by pretending it was anything other than a final parting. . . The way he treated me and the way I treated him, the way we took care of each other and our family, while he lived. That is so much more important than the idea I will see him someday. I don’t think I’ll ever see Carl again. But I saw him. We saw each other. We found each other in the cosmos, and that was wonderful.”

Ann Druyan

For anyone whose partner, lover or spouse has died, Valentines Day can truly feel like an arrow — or a brick — through their heart. We think of you with compassion today, hope all are kind to you, and that you are gentle with yourself.

About Rebecca Hensler

Rebecca Hensler founded Grief Beyond Belief in 2011, following the death of her infant son Jude. She runs Grief Beyond Belief from her home and continues to write and speak on the topics of grief without faith and secular grief support.

One Response to A Valentine for the Grieving

  1. DeannaJoyLyons March 11, 2014 at 12:15 am #

    What a lovely sentiment. Carl and Ann’s romance and intellectual contributions to science will be remembered for a long time.

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